Post by account_disabled on Mar 13, 2024 4:03:27 GMT
On LinkedIn Pulse I often find valuable content. An example is Travis Bradberry 's post , “ The Importance of Being Genuine ” in which he recounts his experience as a researcher in the field of emotional intelligence . Travis made a clear and effective summary of the reasons why we must be empathetic in caring for others by connecting emotionally with the people we relate to, while underlining the importance of being and remaining genuine and authentic in the relationship. We will not be able to connect emotionally to others unless through true closeness and the sharing of values.
Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer define emotional intelligence as “ the India Mobile Number Data ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, distinguish between them, and use this information to guide one's thoughts and actions .” Through this sensitivity we are able to understand what is right for us and others, to create a climate of trust and high-level relationships. Sincerity towards oneself and towards others is a fundamental prerequisite for creating authentic relationships in which one feels reassured and mutual trust flows. There are many who try to please others, who place themselves at a level of subjection, trying to please those they consider "useful" to obtain their goodwill. This attitude has the consequence of obtaining the opposite effect.
Jonathan Franzen explains it better than me in the book “Further still”: “If you dedicate your existence to trying to please others, and you assume the most attractive image possible to do so, perhaps it is because you don't believe you can be loved for who you really are. And if you manage to please others only by deceiving them, it will be difficult for you not to feel a certain contempt for those who have fallen for it. They exist to make you feel good about yourself, but will that sense of well-being really be reliable if it's provided to you by people you don't respect?” We don't get respect by pandering to the boss, the famous blogger, or the person we find useful. We achieve this by placing ourselves at his level with an honest attitude, in which what we say is the true expression of our thoughts and personality. If the person we are addressing wants to surround himself with people who support him, he is probably the one who has problems with a weak personality and little authority.
Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer define emotional intelligence as “ the India Mobile Number Data ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, distinguish between them, and use this information to guide one's thoughts and actions .” Through this sensitivity we are able to understand what is right for us and others, to create a climate of trust and high-level relationships. Sincerity towards oneself and towards others is a fundamental prerequisite for creating authentic relationships in which one feels reassured and mutual trust flows. There are many who try to please others, who place themselves at a level of subjection, trying to please those they consider "useful" to obtain their goodwill. This attitude has the consequence of obtaining the opposite effect.
Jonathan Franzen explains it better than me in the book “Further still”: “If you dedicate your existence to trying to please others, and you assume the most attractive image possible to do so, perhaps it is because you don't believe you can be loved for who you really are. And if you manage to please others only by deceiving them, it will be difficult for you not to feel a certain contempt for those who have fallen for it. They exist to make you feel good about yourself, but will that sense of well-being really be reliable if it's provided to you by people you don't respect?” We don't get respect by pandering to the boss, the famous blogger, or the person we find useful. We achieve this by placing ourselves at his level with an honest attitude, in which what we say is the true expression of our thoughts and personality. If the person we are addressing wants to surround himself with people who support him, he is probably the one who has problems with a weak personality and little authority.